Have you ever heard of Moms Club? I visited one when we lived in Ohio. All of the women were very nice and supportive. For whatever reason I decided at that time that it wasn't something for me to pursue.
Upon arriving in Georgia though my children and I needed friends quick! Boy was I excited to find out that there is a very solid club right here in our area. I joined within days of our arrival - we didn't even have furniture yet :) These fabulous women have supported us through the whole transition... playgroups, local play spots, swim lessons, dentist referrals - you name it! I cannot express my never ending appreciation.
I'd encourage stay at home moms every where to check out a club.