So I blogged a bit ago about a facebook thread that unwound itself... Of course I blogged from my perspective of the conversation. Interestingly enough, that post was quite the hot commodity. Turns out the other party didn't see the thread in the same light as I did. I think it would be fair to share her perspective as well... because, well it just is, isn't it? She doesn't dispute that she did type the things that she did, because well she did. But she would like to explain that her first attempt at chiming in the thread was an attempt at a funny... a pun from some commercial that she doesn't need an app for that. She did not realize from my statement that she was misunderstanding my religion that I had taken offense and then pressed on with her bible verse. The statements that came later, by other facebook parties not me, that mentioned "Judge not lest ye be judged." turned her "adult ADD" mind on to that bible verse. It appears she did not realize that the statements were indicating that others found her statements to be judgemental. So despite the thread being started about the sacrement of confession, her continued defense of judgement was about judging fruits not people. She felt that perhaps she hadn't communicated that as well as she could have at the time. I enjoy learning all sides...because well I live out here and don't know that in her head she jumped to another conversation. She said she didn't know until much later in the thread when the sacrement of confession was stated again that confession was still the topic that judgement was being applied to in my brain. I take her on her word on that because well I don't have any reason not to do so, right?
But this whole conversation in addition to another conversation on the Concordia Classical Academy blog about internet folks ripping each other over their personal choices... makes me wonder: Is polite conversation dead on the internet? Remember the days when religion and politics were topics that were off topic for debate amongst folks that you didn't know well? Do the rules still apply? A good friend says that she thinks they do, but that people forget because they don't have to say the things to one another's faces. If you had to look someone in the eye and say what you were going to type would you? And even more importantly, without total communication of words + nonverbal communication, do we need to be more sensitive to others words or more direct? For example in the facebook thread example, I stayed out of the conversation until near the end.. when someone posted about us all just sharing ideas, I volunteered then that I was offended. Was it my responsibility to state earlier in the thread that I thought the rules of polite conversation were broken? Obviously in face to face conversation the raised eye brows would have given the offense away right?
So what do you think - Are the rules of polite conversation dead in the internet age?